Here is the YouTube  link to Brene Brown’s talk on “The Power of Vulnerability and Empathy”:

https://youtu.be/sXSjc-pbXk4

The argument in this lecture is similar to the material in her book, 

DARING GREATLY. How  the Courage to be  Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (2012)

Ms. Brown begins by asking us to think about:

What should I be afraid of today?

Who’s to blame?

Blame is discharging of emotions, particularly discharging our anger. It doesn’t really resolve any issues.

Anger doesn’t protect us from pain.

Fear and Blame dominate our thinking and our culture.

The morning newspaper says here’s what happened today and whose fault it is.

Ms. Brown discusses the differences between Shame and Guilt, finding Shame much more destructive than Guilt. 

Shame is a focused on the self. Guilt is correlated with behavior.Shame corrodes the part of us that thinks we can change

She says that when we see positive behavioral change it is guilt not shame that produces this change.

She talks about how a scarcity mentality dominates our culture and our lives.

Scarcity culture s understood by the message never enough or today never extraordinary enough.

We feel that we’re just not enough, or not good enough, etc.

When we tell ourselves this lie, we’re just trying to protect ourselves from being hurt. 

Our sense of being lovable and worth connection is weak.

We need to exercise Courage nd Wholeheartedness.

Our capacity for Wholeheartedness must include our willingness to have our hearts broken.

What is empathy? We feel a connection. I’m feeling with you.

Sympathy drives disconnection.I’m feeling for you.

What makes something better is connection

The most important  two words in my work are MeToo.